Wendy Williams is a Feminine Role Model

Wendy Williams and her son.
Wendy Williams and her son.
Wendy Williams and her son.

I have reason to believe that talk show mogul Wendy Williams is an anti-feminist―and I love her for it. In just six seasons, the veteran radio show personality has risen to the top by becoming the number one rated syndicated daytime talk show among the coveted demographic of women between the ages of 25 and 54. In addition to running her daily talk show, Wendy has a line of accessories and wigs. And in her downtime, she writes bestselling books. Wendy Williams is successful and driven leader.

I have followed Wendy Williams’ raunchy career since she was in radio in New York City years ago. When I had free time in college, I would rush to my dorm room to listen to her antics on the Internet radio. I loved listening to her outspoken quips, but best of all, I loved her loyalty to her husband, children and family. It is clear from listening to Wendy Williams that while she is proud of her career and her legacy, she is more proud of the family life she has created. I get the sense that Wendy thinks her career is important, but that it is not the totality of her existence. She clearly understands that family is important, and that is why Wendy Williams should be praised.

Here’s a few reasons why I suspect that Wendy Williams is feminine anti-feminist:

She is proud of the close relationships she has with her son and husband.

If you have watched The Wendy Williams Show for more than 15 minutes, you know that Wendy Williams loves her son and husband. In fact, Wendy Williams’ husband has served as her manager for many years, and allegedly, runs her show with an iron fist. It is clear that she loves her husband and is thankful of the family life they have created together.

Wendy Williams and her husband Kevin Hunter
Can you get more masculine than this? Wendy Williams and her husband Kevin Hunter.

Wendy Williams has spoken in detail about scheduling her show early in the morning so that she can come home before her son arrives from school. Beyond Wendy Williams, it is rare to hear a successful woman discuss their family in such a manner, especially to talk about restructuring their work schedules so that they can be at home with their children. It is usually the other way around. In my professional career, I have met women (and men) who changed their children’s school, hobby and sleep schedules so that they could work long hours without interruption. In one job, I work with a woman who dropped her young children off at daycare at the crack of dawn every day so that she could work longer hours at the office.

She allows herself to be feminine and vulnerable.

It is rare that you see a successful woman discuss her own femininity in the way that Wendy Williams talks about her womanly prowess. Despite her large size, Wendy is one of the most feminine figures on daytime television (as opposed to butch Ellen DeGeneres, butch Whoppi Goldberg and butch Rosie O’Donnell). She is constantly talking about makeup, accessories, shoes and wigs. Lots of wigs (I love wigs too!).

Wendy Williams even allows herself to cry publicly, something you will almost never see if you hang around stiff successful women in the hallways of America’s offices (they are too busy pretending to be men to cry):


She praises masculinity and recognizes biological differences between genders.

I love Wendy’s outspoken nature and I am always shocked when she says things that others are often too afraid to say. And that includes discussions about the decline of masculine men, a subject that the liberal media will never discuss because they support the decline. Celebrities Puff Daddy, Tyler Perry, LL Cool J and Usher refuse to appear on her show because she has repeatedly called them “gay.” She is feminine and she only respects men who are masculine. I agree with her assertion that passive, feminine men are unattractive. Viva Wendy Williams!

Author: Lilac Blue

Lilac Blue is writes about femininity, love and family in a world that has been drastically altered by industrialization, secularism, misandry and misogyny.

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  1. I would have to disagree. I do respect the idea considering Wendy Williams an anti-feminist. However her lifestyle is different; not many mothers have the luxury to reschedule their hours to best fit their children’s schedule. She is fortunate enough to have the opportunity to do so, but does not mean the mother that may work an extra couple of hours maybe to pay for her children to go to the best school or pay for her children to join that soccer team they have always been talking about is not feminine. Also which is a rare thing in this society is that Wendy Williams only has one child in which she can place a great deal of focus for those mothers that have multiple children and multiple schedules to accommodate you can imagine may become quite difficult.

    I also think it is unfair to judge other women by the way they express femininity. Society defines femininity as nails, wigs, heels, and dresses so my question am less feminine if I choose to wear pants and that’s where I am most comfortable and able to express my beauty best? The thing I love about women is that we express beauty if all different ways when a woman cuts her hair does it mean she is less feminine I don’ think so I think that is how she expresses her beauty and I think its fine.

    I watch the Wendy Williams show but times I am also disappointed that she feels she has to demean people in her show. She rarely uplifts, she digs for the dirt and addresses it head on which is fine but sometimes it becomes excessive and deters me from watching her show. Again my opinion is that we and I can only speak from an African American perspective misconstrue ideals many times. We tend to want to know the gossip about each other rather than uplifting and supporting each other. We feel that to be the most beautiful or feminine we have to have the body like Beyoncé, dress like Rihanna have hair like Kim Kardashian. I am not against femininity and love to dress up and wear heels, makeup and get my hair done, but I love to let my hair done once in a while, wear baggy pants and a t-shirt.

    Just my opinion

    1. Good points. You’re right about Wendy Williams demeaning others quite often. The nature of her show focuses on gossiping, and she’s good at doing that, but I agree that she can get a bit harsh at times. My focus on her was mostly that there isn’t a whole lot of women who are proud to be feminine on television–it seems the Rachel Maddows and Ellens are the norm.

    2. I also noticed on the one or two episodes of the Wendy Williams show that I watched that she tends to do a lot of trash talk and gossiping on her show. I, personally, do not watch television much if at all (but that is not the norm). I think what Lilac was doing with this article was highlighting specific ways in which Ms. Williams embraces her femininity.

      I agree with you also that a single mother with lots of children that may have resulted from a deceased husband and may not have time to take care of her physical appearance (for example) should not be considered any less feminine. However, we are trying to focus with this site on the pure essence of femininity (of which motherhood is a part).

      We are not putting down such a woman, but highlighting the strength and natural beauty of the feminine nature.

      My bio actually describes my stance on this a little as it mentions that I seek to empower women to live their best feminine life via this blog. I hope I am doing an effective job with this. I thank you for your feedback and hope you would not hesitate to give more feedback that will help us to improve our blog. 🙂

  2. I like Wendy as a child, but the older i get the more this love turns into hate. Her show and tmz are comedy driven gossip shows. I hate how they masquerade as news show. This is my problem though: We’re becoming more aware that sexuality and sexual identity aren’t always directly linked. Just as a man can cheat on his wife for physical gratification without out any emotional ties, he can also have sex with men without being gay or bisexual. I’m sorry but my personal opinion is that gay and bisexuality are lifestyles. You can have skills and indulge in something daily, but you must respect and acknowledge that it doesn’t necessarily make you an expert or pro. Sex is just an act that people have put too much emphasis on its emotional backing. Yes there are sexual responsibilities, but unless we are active unprotected sexual partners, you have no privileges to whom I have or haven’t had sex with. Now back to this Wendy Williams thing. Ok I respect her longing to blend. Let’s be real though, she is obviously a transgendered woman. For someone to have a TV show about her being so judgmental and give advice with an heir of her opinion is the only right one, I feel that she should at least be more respectful of the gay community who is arguably the majority of her supporters. She could at least come out as trans gendered.

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