This is likely to be a very short article, because I think my point can be made clearly with very few words.
One big argument made by and for modern feminism is a supposed “double standard” in regards to sexuality.
Many modern feminism proponents feel that men are given much more leniency with regards to exploring themselves sexually than women are.
While this may be true in some circles, it is not true in all.
As I mention in my profile, I am Nigerian by decent, born and raised in America.
I am surrounded by people with similar backgrounds.
Many of my close relations that have married live socially conservative lifestyles overall.
The same is true for my church community even though it is more culturally diverse.
However, I am just as familiar with people who are still clubbing well into their 30’s (male and female alike).
From what I can tell, those people who have chosen to “sew their wild oats” (whether male or female) are not let off the hook about the nature of their behaviors.
I actually recently had a conversation about this with my 24 year old brother who confirmed:
“even men get (reprimanded) by their ‘boys’ when they are too (promiscuous). Guys say, ‘yo, you need to slow down before you catch something!'”
The fact of the matter is, it’s not healthy and it’s not accepted by anyone to be excessively free with their bodies. At least not universally so.
Furthermore, if you are surrounded by people who are encouraging or enabling you (male or female) to engage in dangerous promiscuous behavior (including one-night stands with strangers), I would question your social judgement, especially if you are having pangs of conscious, regarding your selection of friends.
At the end of the day, the lesson of this article can be summed up in a simple cliche:
“If everyone was jumping off of a bridge, would you want to do that too?”
Do you think there is a double standard between men and women with regards to sexual behavior? Why or why not? Let’s have a discussion in the comment boxes below!
Author: African Femininity
African Femininity is a first generation American-born Nigerian. That basically means, her parents were immigrants and raised her with a mix of selective cultural values from both traditions. Needless to say, this left her with a very dissonant understanding of what being a “lady” meant. Now, as an un-married 30 year old woman, she is on a mission to delve to the root of being a woman in a world where conflicting cultural values and traditions are leaving many confused and disillusioned. She use the power of the pen to defend a woman’s right to choose her own lifestyle: be it housewife, social climber or being conventionally employed. Check out her Amazon author page for books written by her at http://amazon.com/author/shadowjackson