Are You Living in the City of Love?

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sea-sunset-beach-couple
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I just moved to a city that has the highest levels of single men to single women in the country, and I am loving every minute of it. There are so many single, high-paid men here that one matchmaking service, called the Dating Ring, even launched a crowdfunded campaign to send New York’s single women to meet all of my new city’s “eligible bachelors.” Ah yes, the dating scene is wonderful here.

Friends, I now live in San Francisco. I moved to California a few months ago to get away from the brutal cold winters and fast-paced life of the East Coast. I also knew that I wanted to make finding a husband a bigger priority this year, so I decided to move to a city where the odds of finding a suitable mate are much higher. I first decided to pack up and relocate to the West after reading Richard Florida’s book “Who’s Your City,” which explores the impact that a person’s place of residency can exert over the jobs and careers they have access to, the people they meet and their “mating markets” and their ability to lead happy and fulfilled lives. In the book, Florida ranks Canadian and U.S. cities by life-stage, rating the best places for singles, young families and empty-nesters.

Singles graph
Singles graph

In the past few weeks since I have moved here, I have received hundreds of online dating messages from guys and I have gone on at least 15 dates with men in the San Francisco area looking to settle down. The majority of these men work in the technology industry in some way, with most of the guys being software engineers. I could be imagining things, but there seems to be more men at bars and restaurants in the city. I’ve noticed that men are much friendlier here on the streets, at the pier, in cafes and in libraries. People actually smile here! The high number of men here has created a sort of dilemma for me: I’d love to meet more women at social events around the city because I want to have more female friends here, but all I keep meeting are more men.

Pew Research on suitable cities for singles.
Pew Research on suitable cities for singles.

I am having a great time here in the Bay Area, but a single North American woman needn’t move all the way here to find a spouse. The Pew Research Center recently published a list of the best and worst cities for women looking to marry. At the top of their list? Silicon Valley. Here’s more:

“For women seeking a male partner with a job, our analysis found that San Jose, Calif., tops the list among large metro areas, with 114 single employed men for every 100 single women. Among all single young adults, there were 141 men for every 100 women in this area. Over half (57%) of young adults ages 25 to 34 in the metro area, which includes Sunnyvale and Santa Clara, were single in 2012.”

Would you move to find a spouse? Reply in the comments below!

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Author: Lilac Blue

Lilac Blue is writes about femininity, love and family in a world that has been drastically altered by industrialization, secularism, misandry and misogyny.

Comments

  1. Interesting thoughts regarding the Bay and the availability of thirsty males, though I think things might be a bit different when viewed through a Y chromosome lens. Women, keen to parlay such statistics in order to nab a suitor that would generally be out of their league, are often so intoxicated by the glut of male attention that they are much less likely to commit fearing that they might, just maybe, be missing out. Additionally, as someone that’s spent a significant amount of time there, I can attest that it results in bizarre (I realize they already work in tech so that’s not saying much) male social behaviors that come from too many cocks in the hen house. This creates a positive feedback loop of hilariously bad dates with not very attractive people.

    Even worse, SF’s seafood is ghastly given their proximity to the water ( they’re freaking surrounded by it). No excuse.

  2. Interesting thoughts regarding the Bay and the availability of thirsty males, though I think things might be a bit different when viewed through a Y chromosome lens. Women, keen to parlay such statistics in order to nab a suitor that would generally be out of their league, are often so intoxicated by the glut of male attention that they are barely able to commit to a conversation, much less a date. Female entitlement runs amuck in that city.

    Additionally, as someone that’s spent a significant amount of time there, I can attest that it results in bizarre (I realize they already work in tech so that’s not saying much) male social behaviors that come from too many cocks in the hen house. What remains positive feedback loop of hilariously bad dates with generally unattractive people.

    1. I hope that I don’t get swept up in the frenzy of the Bay Area’s dating scene! I actually just recently heard about the level of female entitlement in the city–I actually went to dinner recently with a group of Millennial men who spent the better part of our dinner discussing the challenges of meeting and dating quality women in the city. One software engineer told me that he is willing to marry any decent woman to get his green card, and he can’t find a single eligible partner. Apparently, software engineers are a dime a dozen, and women here want to date men working in much more glamorized fields.

      Also, yes, it’s true, the seafood sucks here. Why is that?

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  5. Entitlement is a serious problem. Choices, like power, corrupt and develop that type of attitude. You can see it everywhere around – in women’s body language, voices and the way they talk. It’s not to blame them, but just to point out the natural consequence of the local dating dynamics. I can’t help but laugh when I hear an average looking, at best, woman talk about how she has to push away all the men that are after her. I bet that when she was in New York (or if she was in New York) she and her attitude would be invisible among all the far more attractive and often sweeter females.

    1. Alas, I may have written that article too soon because I wrote it shortly after I moved to the area. I have since learned that San Francisco-area men have many feminine traits–flakey, unreliable, and generally un-masculine. Also, very promiscuous. I will write a follow up article about my dating experiences in the near future.

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