15 Ways to Attract the Right Man this Winter

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Look at this man:

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Or this one:

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Or these men:

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As a classy woman, what do you have to offer these men that will make them come back for more? It certainly isn’t sex because these men can easily get sex from a random promiscuous woman at a local bar. It isn’t your looks because there are millions of beautiful women in the world, so that doesn’t make you in particular special. Could it be your DVD collection? No, these men probably do not want to see your movie collection because they probably have a Netflix account. So, what will bring them back for more once you’ve already caught their eye?

Your nurturing side will keep them coming back. Can you cook a decent meal? Is your home tidy and neat or messy and cluttered? Can you give back or neck massages? How often do you show your friends and family that you care about them? When is the last time you gave someone a gift when it wasn’t the holiday season or their birthday? How often do you give hugs? What does your home really smell like? Be honest.

Feminine and caring women have an advantage in today’s dating market. Since it is the winter season and many people have downtime at work, now may be a good time to brush up on your Susie Homemaker domestic skills. Here are a few ideas:

Create Well-decorated Rooms

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Make Sure Your Toilet Sparkles

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Eliminate Clutter in Your Home

Use Boxes, Drawers & Trunks to Organize Items

Find a Difficult Recipe and Perfect It

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Learn How to Cook a Meal from Scratch

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Find Ways to Reuse Leftovers

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Learn How to Properly do Laundry

Teach Yourself How to Sew a Hem

Become Buddies with Your Iron

Create a Weekly Cleaning Schedule

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This is Why Feminists are Embarrassing

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I’m quite positive that if you interviewed most people on the street in a developed country, they would say they believe that women should have the full spectrum of civil and social equalities that are afforded to men. And yet, studies show that the majority of people are turned off by feminists. In CBS’ study of 1,150 U.S. adults, 65 percent of women and 58 percent of men identified as feminist when an equal-rights definition was provided, but only 24 percent of women and 14 percent of men considered themselves “feminist” in the absence of a definition.

I’m in the latter group―I would rather call myself an “antifeminist” or an “equality feminist” before I would ever identify as a “feminist.” Why? Because the latest generation of feminists has proven themselves to be nonsensical and hysterical in every way imaginable. They are fueling the public relations problem that is plaguing their cause. Here’s what’s wrong with our generation of feminists:

They Are Biodenialists

For years, some of the most vocal third-wave feminists have flat-out denied the existence of basic biological differences between men and men. They believe that, despite all scientific evidence to the contrary, gender is a concept created and enforced by society. Thus, they believe that infants are born with a psychological blank slate, and that gender roles are forced upon them. Their dismissal of evolutionary psychology flies in the face of physiology and evolutionary scientists (mind you, many of the world’s outspoken feminist leaders are neither scientists nor psychologists). For a list of evolutionary studies on sex differences, see “Giving Feminism a Bad Name” by Barry X. Kuhle.

Feminists are Misandrists

Photo of woman with cup.Feminists are obsessed with proving that men are rapists, sexual harassers and controlling oppressors. I’m not sure why they hate men so much. To prove that men are awful, they use inaccurate statistics about rape, workplace discrimination and sexual exploitation. They say: “Men are raping because of the rape culture!” Actually the number of rapes in the U.S. is falling every year. According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS), between 1997 and 2013, the rate of rape or sexual assault against women dropped by 50 percent. They say: “Women make 70 cents for every dollar that men make.” The 23-cent gender pay gap is simply the difference between the average earnings of all men and women working full-time, and it does not account for DIFFERENCES in occupations, positions, education, job tenure or hours worked per week. Women tend to work in low-paying jobs and in part-time positions; men tend to work in high-risk jobs, which offer higher pay.

Writer and scholar Christina Hoff Sommers summarized the misandry touted by feminists best when she said: “The idea that American men are annually enslaving more than 100,000 girls, sending millions of women to emergency rooms, sustaining a rape culture and cheating women out of their rightful salary creates rancor in true believers and disdain in those who would otherwise be sympathetic allies.”

Emotionally Unstable

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Who would want to be associated with a group of loud, angry and masculine women who pout and whine about the smallest transgressions? Feminists are perpetually offended. I have personally never met an emotionally stable woman who identified as a feminist. They mobilize over petty issues because they have nothing better to do. They have done everything from shut down small-town coffeeshops, to chastised rocket scientists about their shirts, to picked on talented musical artists. One feminists remarked that she feels angry all the time. It would be great if feminists just moved to an island by themselves…and stayed there.

Contradictory and Hypocritical

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Feminist ideals can be contradictory and confusing. Take for example their views on domestic violence. Feminists believe that gender is a social construct, yet a man is a horrible monster if he hits a woman because she is a a defenseless creature (even in instances when the woman provokes the man). What happened to the idea that a woman can do anything a man can do, even physically? One of the most obvious examples of the hypocrisy of feminists can be seen in the SlutWalks that they host in cities worldwide. First they demand that women are not objectified for their bodies in the media. Then they walk naked in SlutWalks, where they proclaim that they can be promiscuous and walk around naked if they chose to. They are contradictory even amongst themselves at these SlutWalks―some women say that it is disrespectful to call whorish women sluts, while others where their “slut” titles like badges of honor. Huh? I’m not the only one who is confused.

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They Have Shallow Visions of Equality

According to feminists, equality has not been reached until there are equal numbers of men and women in important key positions. They want to see that half of Congress is female, half male; half of the Fortune 500 should be female, according to them. But what if women have no interest in taking those important positions, such as political or business leaders? After all, most women would not want to take on stressful jobs in finance, business, medicine or law that include long working hours that pull her away from her family. Also, has it ever occurred to them that men might naturally excel in some jobs in ways that women do not? Worse, why aren’t feminists upset that ALL industries are not more diverse, such as those that are dangerous and difficult, such as waste management, forestry, construction and law enforcement? Feminists only care about making sure that women are well-represented in cushy, high income jobs.

They Believe They Speak for ALL Women

Photo of Hillary ClintonFeminists believe that they speak for all women, as if we all support free birth control, abortion rights and special workplace privileges for women. We don’t. They typically lean left, and not all women share their liberal views about how the world should work.

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Why Is My Doctor Pushing Birth Control on Me?

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I hate going to the doctor’s, but I dragged myself to see a doctor last week to check out a rash (it was harmless) and get an annual physical exam. As usual, the doctor spent a few minutes trying to convince me to go on birth control. I refused for a litany of reasons, the first being that I do not see the benefits of permanently altering my hormones when I’m not in a relationship or sexually active. I explained to the doctor that I tried birth control in the past, and I ended up with persistent acne as a result. She shrugged slightly (who cares about having severe acne right?) and said that I didn’t need to take hormonal birth control because there are other options. She then, trying to further convince me to go on the Pill, asked me what I would do if I found out I was pregnant in the next year. I said that it would be great, seeing as though I’m already 27 years old and my eggs are going to go bad in a few years. Then she stopped pestering me about the Pill.

I always thought it was strange that doctors have tried to convince me to get on birth control, but I didn’t understand how bizarre it was until I reviewed my medical bill and saw that the doctor listed our birth control conversation as a medical service!

The bill said:

You Were Diagnosed with: Encounter for contraceptive surveillance

At no point did I ask to have a birth control conversation with my doctor. Why did the office bill my insurance company for that conversation? What in the world is going on? How does a doctor benefit from convincing a woman to go on birth control? Blood clots have been linked to hormonal birth control pills, not to mention strokes, heart attacks and high blood pressure as potential side effects. I remember having mood swings when I took birth control. It turns out that I wasn’t imagining things. Birth control has been shown to cause depression in those who are prone to it.

What’s worse is that hormonal birth control can impact your ability to attract and connect with the right partner. A study from the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science followed 118 couples who met while the woman was on hormonal birth control and found that going off the pill impacted how attracted she was to her partner. Why would a doctor want to push a drug that causes all of these side effects on a young woman? And why wouldn’t the doctor at least mention the very serious risks of taking birth control?

Because they are probably getting paid to do so (see Government Will Withhold One-Third of the Records from Database of Physician Payments). …Or. the doctors are just incredibly liberal.

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Family practice medical practitioners tend to have liberal ideologies (see the graphic), and nonprofit doctors are more likely to support Democrats. After all, the birth control Nazi doctor is located at a non-profit women’s clinic in a low-income neighborhood. In San Francisco, Calif. Yeah, I shouldn’t really be shocked by her behavior…

I’ve also noticed that it is only the female doctor’s that push birth control on me, never any male doctors. It could be that the female doctors are hard-line career-driven pants-pushers and they are not able to fathom having children willy nilly. So, they are then trying to push their same “work first, love second” ideology on me.

Their behavior is offensive on several levels:

  • First, they are assuming that I am having reckless or premarital sex. Contraception makes it easier to have sex outside marriage. By pushing birth control, the doctor is trying her best to support what is essentially immoral behavior.
  • Second, doctors are also assuming that I am interested in putting a harmful substance into my body without taking a second thought.
  • Finally, birth control prevents potential human beings from being conceived, which I may think is morally wrong.

Next time I go to in for a doctor’s visit, I’m going to watch my back.

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The Bachelor Review: Ladylike Behavior

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The Bachelor is back. How exciting! You may ask, how can feminine explorers at Ladies Again watch a show where young women compete and drool over one guy? Because we like to think about all things related to dating and relationships. The Bachelor also provides a great deal of accidental social commentary. With each episode, The Bachelor holds up a mirror to all of the confusion and bewilderment facing today’s generation of young people trying to navigate the murky waters of the mating market. There’s plenty of material for romance and dating junkies to dissect, review, learn and reject. Today, we bring you the hits, misses and red flags from the most recent episode.

What Happened

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Ben Higgins

This year’s Bachelor is named Ben Higgins, and he’s a tall and dark-haired software salesman from Warsaw, Indiana. He’s very handsome, much more so than last year’s country-boy bachelor. And yet, Higgins has a boy next door charm about him, but at the same time sort of gives off naughty frat-boy vibes. I’m positive that he is just an aspiring actor just like everyone else in reality television, but this season should be entertaining otherwise.

The women seem to be quirkier than usual. One contestant brought a pony to the opening ceremony; another showed up dressed in a pajama one-piece. Another nutritionist brought bread for Higgins to break and destroy. Ugh. There were a few additional minority women this season than what is typical–there is even three black women this season! Perhaps the ABC producers are heeding to public outcries about the lack of diversity on the show.

Unlady-like Mistakes

Being Too Forward: I’ve never seen a situation where a contestant asked directly for a kiss and everything went well. In my experience, it is usually best to wait for the guy to make a first move. Lace is a contestant who did not wait for Higgins to make the first move and try to kiss her, so she asked for a kiss directly and then experienced rejection when Higgins told her he felt they were moving too fast. Later she asks him “Did you even notice me, do you know my name? Hello?!” Yeah, not a good way to be feminine.

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The Idiots Are Winning

The level of “false outrage” and political correctness on college campuses has surpassed all levels of idiocy. If social justice warriors and logical people are in a war for the minds of young and impressionable people, the crazy social justice warriors are winning. Want examples? California recently passed a bill to stop campus rape culture by telling grown adults to affirm whether they want to have consensual sex by saying “Yes” like a robot before each sexual activity.

An angry mob of protestors officially ended racism last month when they forced a University of Missouri chancellor to quit because someone driving past the school shouted the N-word. Yale students wanted to fire a professor for arguing that students are old enough to wear whatever Halloween costume they want to wear. The idiots are winning, and they think that they are actually believe that they are making meaningful changes.

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The crazy people are winning and they are taking over our colleges, news outlets and entertainment centers. This is why we all need to do a better job to support blogs, magazines and authors who argue for traditional, commonsense ideals about family structures and gender relationships. Blogs like Reason Magazine, JudgyBitch and Return of Kings. And especially Ladies Again. Please join me in donating and subscribing to those outlets. You can also start to dismantle the liberal power structure by boycotting their businesses. Turn off the news. I have already unsubscribed from mainstream news outlets like The Washington Post, NPR and The New York Times. I can’t even read Psychology Today any longer, which was one of my favorite outlets, without seeing in-depth news articles about heroic “transgender activists.” Now, I get my political news from niche outlets, like Roll Call (and I have no interest in voting Democratic any time soon).

You can also vote and share videos and news stories that bring light to all of the madness from the social justice warriors. Here are a few of my favorites–share them at will:

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13 Reasons Why I’m Grateful for Strong Men

Job HA0276. February 2006. Fabrication of a new plastic coated bridge, which is being constructed alongside the motorway and will later be erected at Mount Pleasant, M6 motorway, near Junction 32, Lancashire north of Bilsborrow.

I love men for their strength and courage, and I think it’s unfortunate that so many of today’s mainstream bloggers and columnists seem obsessed with pointing out all of the things that men are doing wrong, such as promoting “rape culture,” objectifying women or refusing to “man up.” I am sick of seeing feminists depict men as simple-minded creatures who are only capable of raping and dominating poor and defenseless women.

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A group of men built this. Photo by Thomas Hawk via Flickr

If you listen to all of the anti-male rhetoric spewing out of Hillary Clinton or her online cult followers, it is easy to believe that the world would be better off if men were eliminated. The truth is that men contribute to society in profound ways. They build our roads, they build our homes, they fight to protect us in wars, they keep us safe. For instance, none of the 9/11 rescue workers were women.

I did not fully appreciate the contributions that men make to society until I took a walk on the Brooklyn Bridge in New York City. Putting my hand on the bridge, I could feel the power of the structure, and I wondered how many men risked their lives to build the bridge years ago. It turns out that between 20 to 50 men were estimated to have died from various causes while building the bridge―not a single women died, or even got injured, making the bridge. It’s easy to say that women did not make any any contributions to the development of the bridge because of historical workplace discrimination. That assumption is wrong―it has been more than 130 years since the Brooklyn Bridge first opened, and men are still taking on the riskiest jobs in the world. In the United States, more than 4,300 men died in 2014(pdf) at work, while only 359 women lost their lives at work that year. Men continue to take on the jobs women will not even consider, such as plumbing, carpentry, forestry, waste management and roofing.

Here are just a few of the ways that men contribute today to society:

100% of electrical power line installers are men.

100% of oil drill workers are men.

100% of heating, air conditioning and refrigeration mechanics are men.

100% of deep sea fishermen are men.

99% of coal miners are men.

99% of garbage collectors are men.

99% of roofers are men.

98% of metal fabricators are men.

97% of aircraft maintenance and service technicians are men.

95.5% of firefighters are men.

92% of construction workers are men.

88% of patrol officers are men.

Thanks to Staked In The Heart for sharing the statistics!

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Why is it so Hard to Keep the Weight Off?

Healthy people are more sought after and valuable in the dating market, which puts a lot of pressure on single people to maintain a healthy weight. Logically, this pressure is understandable. People want to date individuals who can live long healthy lives and produce healthy children. In spite of all of the pressure to lose weight, many people struggle to maintain a healthy weight after significant weight loss. According to one study, ninety percent of people who lose a significant amount of weight gain it back eventually. Why is that? New evidence shows that weight gain cannot simply be attributed to bad genes or poor eating habits returning to the surface. Researchers have found that weight gain is caused by something much more sinister.

The body’s ability to maintain its stability is called homeostasis. When a person gains weight, the body accepts the new weight as its stable level. One hormone, called leptin, tells the brain how much body fat is present. When a person loses weight, leptin falls, appetite increases and metabolism slows. Thus, the hormone tells the brain that it does not have enough fat to maintain stability. Additionally, the hormone ghrelin, make dieters’ appetites stronger. Researchers at the University of Melbourne found that the body actually resists weight loss.

One researcher, Dr. Leibel told the New York Times, that losing weight “is not a neutral event,” and that it is no accident that more than 90 percent of people who lose a lot of weight gain it back. “You are putting your body into a circumstance it will resist. You are, in a sense, more metabolically normal when you are at a higher body weight.”

It is a sad reality that weight loss dieters have to work harder to maintain a healthy body weight, and the desire to eat more and work out less is something that will never go away. Although it is is a sad reality, the truth is that overweight and obese individuals will have to work against that force if they want to leave long and healthy lives. Excess weight impacts a person’s job prospects, dating options, economic stability and overall lifespan. Weight loss is a tough battle, but it is worth the hassle. You can do this and lose the weight because the costs are too high to ignore.

Watch doctors and scientists discuss homeostasis challenges in overweight individuals.

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The Only Effective Way to Lose Weight

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The U.S. weight-loss industry earned $20 billion in 2012, which included diet books, diet drugs and weight-loss surgeries. And yet, the number of obese Americans officially outnumbers the number of overweight Americans. We are at epidemic levels of obesity: 68 percent of all Americans are obese or overweight. What is causing this disconnect? It could be that Americans are looking for weight loss answers in all of the wrong places. As a college nutritional science student, I talk about weight-loss strategies and treatments nearly everyday, and I know that there are several indisputable factors that contribute to obesity. Let’s ignore all of the trendy fad diets and weight loss products dominating the weight loss conversation today and talk about weight loss strategies that actually work.

Weight loss is a subject that we at Ladies Again are interested in because health status greatly impacts an individual’s value in the dating and marriage market. It is simple: Healthy, successful men want to date, marry and reproduce with healthy women who can produce and raise healthy offspring. In general, people are looking for partners who will live long and healthy lives, not shortened lives muddled by the consequences of obesity, such as stroke, heart disease, diabetes, cancer, and liver and kidney diseases (obesity may shorten life expectancy up to 14 years). Not to mention that obesity adds up to expensive medical bills (someone has to pay for the doctor’s appointments and medications for diabetes, blood pressure and cholesterol). In sum, losing weight is very challenging, but doing so significantly boosts your overall health and value in the dating market. Weight loss is hard, but always worth the effort.

So what causes obesity? Obesity is caused when the amount of energy inputted into the body exceeds the energy released by the body. It is that simple. When excess fat is consumed and not used, the body stores the fat in fat cells of the adipose tissues. As the fat cells accumulate they expand in size. When the excess fat exceeds the fat cells, it is distributed and deposited in vital organs, such as the heart and the liver, which leads to heart failure and fatty liver. The wonderful thing about the body is that is highly adaptable, so when excess fat is consumed, the fat cells increase in number and expand to accommodate. Unfortunately, this also means that when we lose weight, the fat cells only shrink in size, but never in number. This is why people with excess fat tend to regain lost weight rapidly because their fat cells readily fill. This means that we must work very hard to make sure that excess fat cells do not develop.

Aside from genetic variants, there are two major factors for obesity: high overall caloric intake (high proportion sizes) and physical inactivity. Humans have developed to hunt for our meat or walk long distances for fruits and vegetables. Now, it takes no effort to order a Big Mac or a pizza―you don’t even have to leave your house anymore to order food (we really should say “food” in quotation marks since we’re talking about foods filled with trans fats, high-fructose corn syrup and white flours). Unfortunately, high-caloric food is always within close range, and Americans eat this food in abundance. Second, Americans rarely exercise―we drive to our homes, where we eat pizza on the couch while watching television. There is a misconception that humans need to only exercise 30 minutes per day to stay healthy. “People must be physically active if they are to eat enough food to deliver all the nutrients they need without unhealthy weight gain,” wrote Whitney and Rolfers in Understanding Nutrition. To prevent weight gain, the Dietary Reference Intakes recommends 60 minutes of moderately intense (get that heart rate beating) exercise each day. Per day. More exercise is recommended if losing weight is the goal.

There’s a lot of incorrect weight loss advice floating around. The problem with fad diets is that they are difficult to sustain long-term and often promote inadequate diets (our bodies need a certain amount of carbohydrates, proteins and healthy fats per day to function). Lose weight too quickly, and you risk losing muscle tissue instead of fat, which is dangerous and defeats the point of dieting to maintain optimal health.

So how do you lose weight the safe way? Try these effective nutritional and physical activity strategies:

Nutrition

Set Reasonable Goals
Understand and accept that losing weight is a challenge, and it is dangerous to lose weight too quickly. The safe rate for weight loss is 0.5 to 2 lbs (or 0.2 or 0.9 kg) per week; or 10 percent of body weight every six months.

Reduce Energy Intake
Obesity is caused by an energy imbalance, where more energy is being consumed than expended. So to lose weight safely, a person must increase activity and reduce food intake by creating a deficit of 300 to 500 calories per day (for people with a BMI of 27 to 35). This will produce a weight loss of 1-2 pounds per week, which will make sure that you lose fat but also retain your lean muscle tissue.

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Shop on the outskirts of the grocery store to avoid junk food.

Emphasize Nutritional Adequacy
Each day, healthy humans need to eat a certain amount of carbohydrates, proteins and fats to maintain bodily functioning. Out of all of the calories we consume, 45-65 percent should be carbohydrates (fruits, vegetables, whole grains), 20-35 percent should be fats and 10-35 should be protein. You need a balance of all three nutrients.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABCDEFGH[/youtube]Fad diets that tell dieters to reduce carbohydrates never work because we need good carbs to function properly. Too little carbohydrates isn’t good because the body takes proteins and turns them into glucose in a process called gluconeogenesis. Your brain and muscles need glucose from carbs to function! Also, the body cannot process too much protein, so our bodies excrete the amino acids through our urea (this puts stress on our kidneys).

Try to eat a diet of fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes and lean protein, such as turkey or seafood. So to lose weight, simply consume less of all of the food you eat, but continue to eat a balanced diet. Do not reduce your proportion of carbohydrates, proteins or fat―only reduce your total caloric intake.

Shop Differently
Bigbox grocery stores tend to put packaged foods in the center of the store. Excluding whole grain pastas and jarred vegetables, most of the valuable nutrient-dense fruits and vegetables, lean meats and dairy products are located on the outskirts of the grocery store aisles; the junk foods are all in the center. Try shopping by avoiding the center aisles of your grocery stores. Or simply try shopping at farmer’s markets. Finally, get in the habit of reading nutritional labels. Check for processed sugars, “natural flavors” (which are actually just fragrances) and artery-clogging trans fats.

Minor Tips

A few other nutritional changes you can make:

  • Eat slower: Allow your body to tell your brain that you have reached satiety and are full. Fast eating correlates with higher weights.
  • Drink water: Try to go one week by just drinking water to quench your thirst and nothing else. Why? Because sugar-sweetened beverages have been closely linked to obesity. Also, water, increases fullness and reduces hunger, and consequently reduces energy intake.
  • Don’t eat 3 hours before bed: Your body needs time to process your meal, so don’t eat too late at night.

Finally, think of your body as a temple. Dismiss and ignore empty caloric drinks and snacks. You have too many life goals and things to offer than to put a 700-calorie burger in your body. Your body is too precious to treat it like a garbage can. Remember that the next time you pass by a cupcake shop.

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How to Get Divorced in 10 Easy Steps: “Dear Future Husband” Review

The "Dear Future Husband" music video by Meghan Tanner.
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Have you ever had a song that you hate stuck in your head because the beat was so catchy? And did you hate the song so much that you wanted to bang your head against the wall for it being stuck in there? That’s how I feel about Meghan Trainor’s hit song “Dear Future Husband.” The song’s video currently has over 164 million views on YouTube, which means that people actually like it, and are listening to it over and over again. I have even seeing young teen and pre-teen girls doing covers of the song like in this disturbing video.

The problem with this song is that it is slow poison. It is deception wrapped in a catchy jingle.

Women all over the world are singing this song in preparation for their divorces, and in this article I intend to demonstrate the process called “how to get yourself divorced in 10 easy steps” as demonstrated through the lyrics of Meghan Trainor’s “Dear Future Husband” song.

STEP 1. Be demanding.

“Take me on a date. I deserve it, babe.” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

If you want to get yourself divorced, you need to learn the fine art of being demanding and entitled. Be as bratty as possible. Men won’t be able to resist filing divorce papers.

STEP 2. Be bossy.

“And don’t forget the flowers every anniversary.” – Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

Men love to get rid of women who are picky about how affection is shown to them. It’s great for undermining their ego, and making them feel emasculated. A woman can really bust a man’s balls by not acknowledging that every man has his own “love language” and needs space to express himself the way only he can (as all humans do).

STEP 3. Set unrealistic expectations.

“Cuz if you treat me right. I’ll be the perfect wife.” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

One of the best way to get your man in the courtroom is to set unrealistic expectation, both for him and for yourself. It’s bad enough when battered women with low self-esteem think they need to be perfect to deserve to be treated right, but when a man feels he needs to meet unclear and unattainable expectations to be loved, he gets butterflies in his stomach just thinking of getting away from you.

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STEP 4. Set low standards for yourself.

“I’ll be the perfect wife. Buying groceries…buying what you need.” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

Men love getting rid of annoying women who want credit for doing what they are supposed to do. When you think you’re hot stuff, because of the mundane things you do like washing dishes, cooking a meal and of course “buy-buying groceries,” men get tickled pink with the idea of kicking you to the curb! They don’t want you to put in the effort to actually keep the home together and be an equal partner. Why would they? It might just give them enough sympathy to keep you around, and nobody wants that!

STEP 5. Make excuses.

“You got that 9 to 5. But baby, so do I. So don’t be thinking I’ll be home and baking apple pies. I never learned to cook, but I can write a hook. Sing along with me…” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

If you want your man to go running for the hills, give him every reason in the book why you cannot carry your weight in the relationship. Tell him about how hard it is to be you, while ignoring the problems he might be facing. Make every situation about yourself, and put forth no effort to consider your short-comings as things that may need to be addressed. He’ll practically pee his pants in excitement at the thought of getting rid of you!

STEP 6. Use sex to manipulate him.

“Dear future husband, if you want to get that special lovin, tell me I’m beautiful each and every night…

After every fight, just apologize, and maybe then I’ll let you try and rock my body right…

Open doors for me and you might get some (implies fellatio)…” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

The future divorcee anthem is so on point with this one. Using sex as a weapon is definitely the icing on the cake that sends a man running to a lawyer (or into the arms of another woman). Listen to her, ladies! She definitely has the secret to being a lonely cat lady spelled out here.

STEP 7. Kill compassion. Never compromise, or admit fault.

“After every fight, just apologize…Even if I’m wrong. (Laughs) You know I’m never wrong. Why disagree?” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

No man wants to delete a woman from his life who apologizes for her mistakes and makes him feel special. Why would he? Don’t you think he likes feeling good about himself? Come on, sister! You have to be an obnoxiously power-hungry, prideful woman if you want to die alone.

STEP 8. Be needy.

“Make time for me. Don’t leave me lonely.” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

Yes! Or as the young people say, “yaaaassss”! The age old neediness trick gets them every time. You will know it is working when he stops coming home at night, and prefers to spend time with his friends instead of you. Do not get your own life. Bug him into submission to the judge to give you the divorce. It won’t be hard once you have employed this simple trick.

STEP 9. Be as selfish as possible.

“And know we’ll never see your family more than mine.” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

His needs are not important when you are trying to get yourself divorced. What you need is the fortitude to stand strong in your demands especially, what Ms. Trainor has suggested here, forcing him to spend more time with people he does not know and sacrifice his desired quality time with the people who raised him. Hat’s off to you, Meghan. You are a role model!

STEP 10. Be in denial and insist he does the same.

“You gotta know how to treat me like a lady. Even when I’m acting crazy, tell me everything’s alright.” –Meghan Trainor, Dear Future Husband

Men hate staying with women who have a good sense of reality. So, stop acting like a lady, but still demand to be treated like one. That’s the only way you’ll get that divorce you so desperately deserve! Behave like a lunatic, and then pretend everything is OK. Do not settle disputes rationally, it doesn’t work. The only thing that will get you your singleness back is utter lunacy. God speed, ladies.

The title of the song should not be “Dear Future Husband”, but “Dear Future Exes.” The hook should be:

 

“Dear Future Exes

Here’s a few phrases you should know

If you want to be someone’s divorcee

Not a wife”

 

Now, although this article was written tongue in cheek, it definitely rings true in my opinion. I think women should take this article very seriously, and moreover, take seriously the type of media you  expose yourself and your daughters to. Many women who grow up listening to things like this end alone and bitter well past their prime and wonder where they went wrong. This is a cautionary tale. Heed it wisely. Men deserve to be treated with the same respect you do.

I have a series that I have been doing on this blog entitled ” Feminine or Not” where I assess whether various pop culture staples targeted to women are actually feminine. I would put Meghan Tanner’s song in the category of Not Feminine. In my opinion, no woman should listen to this song. No woman should sing this song. This song should never have been written. This song needs to die. I will be happy when this song’s 15 minutes of fame are over. Sorry, Ms. Tanner, and dear future musicians, please don’t do this anymore. Thanks.

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Why Meryl Streep Turned Her Back on Feminism

21st Annual SAG Awards at the Shrine Auditorium Featuring: Meryl Streep Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 25 Jan 2015 Credit: FayesVision/WENN.com

In a recent interview, Meryl Streep was asked if she was a feminist and was quoted as saying, “I am a humanist. I am for nice, easy balance.” She is not the only high-profile female celebrity distancing herself from the controversial ideology of feminism. Susan Sarandon told The Guardian when asked about her affiliation with feminism, “I think of myself as a humanist, because I think it’s less alienating.” Other celebrities have made similar statements in recent times, and feminist extremists, in true form, have aggressively attacked these women for selling out an ideology that supposedly encourages woman’s right to choose. Apparently that right to choose does not include a right to choose your own opinions.

Meryl Streep dressed as a rock star looks sad
Streep in the 2015 movie Ricki & The Flash which realistically portrays the consequences of a woman who chooses a wild life over her family
Credit: Movieclips Trailers (youtube)

Although, I do not agree with a lot of what the online news source The Frisky says, I do agree with writer Rebecca Brink’s , statements on feminism:

“The feminist internet tends to imply that feminism is just a set of beliefs, not a way of behaving or a set of tactics…But no: Feminism is also a way of behaving, a way of living, and a set of tactics…This is true for any ideology or religion – if you want change, you can’t just have beliefs; the point is that you also act on them. This is why Gandhi fasted and Martin Luther King Jr. engaged in non-violence.”

 

Meryl Streep with Alec Bladwin and Steve Martin in movie it's complicated
Meryl Streep has played in her share of feminist propaganda films such as this 2009’s “It’s Complicated” about a high-powered woman who faces the dilemma of juggling a serious relationship and a secret affair with her ex-husband
photo credit: Universal studios

Feminism is an aggressive, unilateral movement, no matter how their supporters try to spin it. A movement towards what, though? Brink, Streep, Sarandon have all distanced themselves from this movement, because (as Brink points out in her article) modern feminism is full of bullying and power grabbing and most of the time does little if anything to support women who are most in need, such as impoverished or abused women. This includes women in third world countries, as well as homeless women and women in poverty here in America, military widows and orphans. Modern feminism lacks the compassion and substance of great successful movements of the past. Instead, it focuses on increasing unhealthy permissiveness for those who don’t need it, such as middle and upper class white women.
Do not get me wrong, I am not saying that middle- and upper-class white women have absolutely no problems deserving of sympathy. However, feminists are forgetting the ultimate impact that their policies have on society’s most vulnerable women. How do low-income women benefit from sexual promiscuity, abortions and male-hating rhetoric? If anything, those women are most in need of male support for their security and legacy in the world. There is no benefit to encouraging underprivileged women to reject the men in their lives when they need that dual income to raise children and support themselves and their families. There is not benefit in the sexual liberation of third world women who primarily need to be concerned with the personal health and welfare of themselves and their families. These are the issues of the feminist elite who are controlling the voice of the feminist movement right now. Fortunately, as Sarandon and Streep are displaying, many of these women are beginning to wise up to the consequences of this divisive and hazardous ideology.
Do you identify as a feminist? Why or why not?

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