Honesty and Integrity are Key to Femininity

Hillary Clinton

Many of the articles on Ladies Again follow our theme on better ways to increase femininity through self-improvement. Today, however, I would like to try something different. Instead of writing about the better ways to clean or how volunteering can increase our sense of caring and femininity, I’d like today’s article to focus on one aspect of femininity that cannot be underestimated: integrity.

The dictionary Merriam-Webster defines integrity as a firm adherence to a code of moral or artistic values. You know a person with integrity when you see them. These are the people who are honest, trustworthy and down-to-earth. They are not afraid to be assertive about their values and morals during times when others either oppose them or put pressure on them to conform. Individuals with integrity understand right from wrong, and stick to their principles.

When it comes to women, individuals with integrity are respected and trusted by their peers. These women handle themselves with grace and confidence. They will admit when they do not know the answer to a question, and they will accept responsibility when they make a mistake. Can integrity be taught? It’s possible that it is taught from the family or from religion. The jury is still out if it can be taught in schools.

The subject of integrity is especially relevant today given the role it played in the 2016 U.S. presidential election. Voters in rural and urban communities alike found themselves debating the trustworthiness of presidential candidates Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton. The election was full of enough ethical conundrums to puzzle spectators for years: During the campaign season, Clinton faced an ethics probe over her emails, while Trump faced a lawsuit over his troubled Trump University.

The question many people asked themselves was “Who is more likely to be lying to me? Who is more likely to be telling the truth?” One woman interviewed in a New York Times article accurately summarized many of the sentiments held by voters last year:

I really wanted to have a female president. I think that’s important. But I’m not sure that’s her…I voted for Obama the last time. I don’t agree with a lot of what he said, but I felt he was honest.

Integrity is key to caring for and respecting others, and it is a quality that is key to femininity. Interestingly enough, it is also key to masculinity as well, after all, men who adhere to an ethical code are respected and appreciated.

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The Worst Role Model

Huma Abedin
Huma Abedin
Huma Abedin

With the U.S. presidential election coming up in a few weeks, much of the world’s attention is focused on learning more about Hillary Clinton. While there’s quite a bit that could be written about Clinton, the Hildabeast that may likely become the first female president of America, I’d like to focus on a more interesting character in the Clinton circle: Huma Abedin, Clinton’s her right-hand woman and professional aide.

Never before have I seen a woman made up of so many contradictions and twisting plotlines. She is so polished and calculating, but made of so many mistakes. On many levels, I am fascinated by Abedin because her life has taken a course that I no interest in following. She is the opposite of a role model. If anything, she serves as a public guideline for how not to live.

The first and foremost mistake that Abedin has made is that she married a scheming, lying sham of a man, named Anthony Weiner. Heard of him? He’s the former New York congressman who was first caught texting another woman (outside of his marriage to Abedin) while running for public office. I originally dismissed the first texting scandal as temporary marital strife in the Weiner home, and none of my personal business. But then, he got caught texting his penis a second time shortly after the incident.

At the time, I thought, it was just bad timing. He probably should have known not to do it again, especially so soon to the first texting incident. He was laughed out of Congress. Then, years later, Weiner attempted to make a comeback by running for mayor of New York City, but was caught sexting other women again! His bid for mayor failed. Then most recently, he was caught texting a photo of his penis to a woman—while his infant son lie on the bed next to him.

Anthony Weiner sexting.
Weiner sexting

Weiner flagrant extramarital affairs were hard to understand. It was even harder to understand why Abedin remained so loyal to him, especially given the negative impact that her association with Weiner could have had on her career. And what kind of person would marry someone as crazy as Weiner in the first place? I can think of two theories: First, she wanted to stay married for her son’s benefit and/or marriage is frowned upon by her family. Second, she may have thought that being faithful and loyal to Weiner will make her look like a hero in the long run, because after all, it worked so well for Hillary after the Bill Clinton affair.

The last theory is the most probable I think, but it’s hard to imagine why someone would stay married to a man who continued to disrespect her. Lastly, Abedin might also be crazy or egomaniacal too, and just wanted to be married to someone powerful. Was it possible that Abedin is just as unstable as Weiner? It turns out that Abedin may have known that he was a bad apple from the very beginning. In an interview, Abedin said that she walked out on Weiner on their first date. And yet, she married him even still.

The second crazy thing about her is her unwavering dedication to Hillary Clinton. I do not want to get on a soapbox about how wrong Clinton is for the country, but I know that anyone who is an ally with her is also probably wrong too. Abedin has testified in court in defense of Clinton, and she even had Clinton preside over her wedding, for goodness sake.

Lastly, Abedin is, in all outward aspects, a very feminine woman. She understands the importance of color-coding and matching, and she makes sure that her hair and makeup looks fantastic on a regular basis. I think it is wonderful that she takes care of herself, but it’s also a bit contradictory that she works in such a cut-throat industry. After all, her work with Clinton at Department of State involved conversations about drone strikes, refugee camps and military interventions. Not so glamorous. Nevertheless, Vogue recognized her many years ago for her sense of fashion, but neglected to discuss the much seedier side of the work that she does everyday.

Abedin may now have it all together in her personal life, but her professional life is most certainly on a steep incline (after all, we know that women can’t really have it all). It is shocking that a woman who made such a poor choice by marrying and staying loyal to Weiner may soon serve as the top aide to the president of the United States. As more and more women turn away from feminism, I hope that they will look to Abedin as an example of how not to live.

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This is Why Feminists are Embarrassing

Photo by Zombie Time

I’m quite positive that if you interviewed most people on the street in a developed country, they would say they believe that women should have the full spectrum of civil and social equalities that are afforded to men. And yet, studies show that the majority of people are turned off by feminists. In CBS’ study of 1,150 U.S. adults, 65 percent of women and 58 percent of men identified as feminist when an equal-rights definition was provided, but only 24 percent of women and 14 percent of men considered themselves “feminist” in the absence of a definition.

I’m in the latter group―I would rather call myself an “antifeminist” or an “equality feminist” before I would ever identify as a “feminist.” Why? Because the latest generation of feminists has proven themselves to be nonsensical and hysterical in every way imaginable. They are fueling the public relations problem that is plaguing their cause. Here’s what’s wrong with our generation of feminists:

They Are Biodenialists

For years, some of the most vocal third-wave feminists have flat-out denied the existence of basic biological differences between men and men. They believe that, despite all scientific evidence to the contrary, gender is a concept created and enforced by society. Thus, they believe that infants are born with a psychological blank slate, and that gender roles are forced upon them. Their dismissal of evolutionary psychology flies in the face of physiology and evolutionary scientists (mind you, many of the world’s outspoken feminist leaders are neither scientists nor psychologists). For a list of evolutionary studies on sex differences, see “Giving Feminism a Bad Name” by Barry X. Kuhle.

Feminists are Misandrists

Photo of woman with cup.Feminists are obsessed with proving that men are rapists, sexual harassers and controlling oppressors. I’m not sure why they hate men so much. To prove that men are awful, they use inaccurate statistics about rape, workplace discrimination and sexual exploitation. They say: “Men are raping because of the rape culture!” Actually the number of rapes in the U.S. is falling every year. According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS), between 1997 and 2013, the rate of rape or sexual assault against women dropped by 50 percent. They say: “Women make 70 cents for every dollar that men make.” The 23-cent gender pay gap is simply the difference between the average earnings of all men and women working full-time, and it does not account for DIFFERENCES in occupations, positions, education, job tenure or hours worked per week. Women tend to work in low-paying jobs and in part-time positions; men tend to work in high-risk jobs, which offer higher pay.

Writer and scholar Christina Hoff Sommers summarized the misandry touted by feminists best when she said: “The idea that American men are annually enslaving more than 100,000 girls, sending millions of women to emergency rooms, sustaining a rape culture and cheating women out of their rightful salary creates rancor in true believers and disdain in those who would otherwise be sympathetic allies.”

Emotionally Unstable

“part of patriarchy”

Who would want to be associated with a group of loud, angry and masculine women who pout and whine about the smallest transgressions? Feminists are perpetually offended. I have personally never met an emotionally stable woman who identified as a feminist. They mobilize over petty issues because they have nothing better to do. They have done everything from shut down small-town coffeeshops, to chastised rocket scientists about their shirts, to picked on talented musical artists. One feminists remarked that she feels angry all the time. It would be great if feminists just moved to an island by themselves…and stayed there.

Contradictory and Hypocritical

Photo by Zombie Time
Photo by Zombie Time

Feminist ideals can be contradictory and confusing. Take for example their views on domestic violence. Feminists believe that gender is a social construct, yet a man is a horrible monster if he hits a woman because she is a a defenseless creature (even in instances when the woman provokes the man). What happened to the idea that a woman can do anything a man can do, even physically? One of the most obvious examples of the hypocrisy of feminists can be seen in the SlutWalks that they host in cities worldwide. First they demand that women are not objectified for their bodies in the media. Then they walk naked in SlutWalks, where they proclaim that they can be promiscuous and walk around naked if they chose to. They are contradictory even amongst themselves at these SlutWalks―some women say that it is disrespectful to call whorish women sluts, while others where their “slut” titles like badges of honor. Huh? I’m not the only one who is confused.

Photo by ZombieTime
Photo by ZombieTime

They Have Shallow Visions of Equality

According to feminists, equality has not been reached until there are equal numbers of men and women in important key positions. They want to see that half of Congress is female, half male; half of the Fortune 500 should be female, according to them. But what if women have no interest in taking those important positions, such as political or business leaders? After all, most women would not want to take on stressful jobs in finance, business, medicine or law that include long working hours that pull her away from her family. Also, has it ever occurred to them that men might naturally excel in some jobs in ways that women do not? Worse, why aren’t feminists upset that ALL industries are not more diverse, such as those that are dangerous and difficult, such as waste management, forestry, construction and law enforcement? Feminists only care about making sure that women are well-represented in cushy, high income jobs.

They Believe They Speak for ALL Women

Photo of Hillary ClintonFeminists believe that they speak for all women, as if we all support free birth control, abortion rights and special workplace privileges for women. We don’t. They typically lean left, and not all women share their liberal views about how the world should work.

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Tag the Bias

Photo by Jon S NS Newsflas via Flickr
Photo by Jon S NS Newsflas via Flickr
Photo by Jon S NS Newsflas via Flickr

Have you seen these articles?

  • The best way to eliminate the gender pay gap? Ban salary negotiations.
  • Caitlyn Jenner: I was ‘mistreated’ by Kris Jenner
  • Women’s Soccer Is a Feminist Issue
  • The Price of Caitlyn Jenner’s Heroism

This may come as a shock, but each of the article references above came from reputable news outlets (the first two articles were taken from the pages of The Washington Post, the third from The Atlantic and the final article from The New York Times). These news outlets used to be world-renown for their investigative coverage of the country’s most pressing issues, such as government corruption, war crimes, white-collar criminals, gentrification or political astroturfing.

I implore all Ladies Again readers to document bias in the media by using the hashtag #tagthebias.

Instead, today’s journalists at high-profile news agencies are choosing to forgo coverage of hard-hitting news subjects to cover made-up gender issues, such as the “rape culture,” the “sexual harassment in the workplace,” or “pay discrimination” against women―all “issues” that have been debunked by research). Reporters at traditional news outlets are unabashedly using their publications as mouthpieces to push their own ultra-liberal, feminist and pro-gay political agendas. In the mainstream media, opposing views to the liberal agenda are either ignored or categorized as sexist, racist, insensitive or homophobic. Ethical journalism is at an all-time low.

Hillary Clinton Washington Post Express Cover
Hillary Clinton Washington Post Express Cover

If you are a regularly reader of a mainstream news publication, it’s rare that you read a news issue that does not include at least one article that promotes the value of gay marriage, transsexual rights or chastises a political leader or celebrity for making comments about women or dating. And news agencies are pushing their agenda without any shame―in March 2014, Time magazine put a transsexual on the cover of their magazine.

Earlier this year, The Washington Post put Hillary Clinton on the cover with a halo behind her―of course, Rand Paul, Marco Rubio and Ben Carson did not receive the same “halo” treatment when they announced their bids for presidency. Conservative opinions are rarely included by the country’s largest news agencies. The bias in the media extends beyond political leaders—workaholics (and liberals) Sheryl Sandberg and Sonya Sotomayor are praised as “strong” heroines by the press, yet conservative business and political leaders like Penelope Trunk and Condoleezza Rice are not praised for their work ethics.

As a journalist, my question is this: Why are news outlets investing so much energy in promoting fringe feminist ideals or gay rights when the media industry is falling apart? Shouldn’t they worry about covering actual news? The general public does not even agree with their feminist sentiments: In a study, only 24 percent of women and 14 percent of men considered themselves to be a “feminist” in the absence of a definition of the word. Nearly forty percent of all Americans say that they do not support gay marriage.

The media industry cannot afford to continue this nonsense. According to the American Society of News Editors, full-time newspaper newsroom staffing shrunk 30 percent from 2003 through 2012. Local corruption stories are likely not getting covered: A Pew report finds that the number of full-time statehouse reporters dropped by 35 percent between 2003 and 2014—a loss of 164 jobs. News agencies are losing money each day. The New York Times reported in 2014 that their total revenue decreased 0.6 percent, to $388.7 million, from $391 million in the period a year earlier, largely because of a 4.1 percent decline in advertising revenue. Net income decreased from more than $20 million to $9 million in the second quarter of 2013.

Pew Bias Chart
Pew Bias Chart

I am not sure what news agencies are doing, but it is time that the public call out media agencies for wasting valuable print space on liberal fringe ideas. Why? The media has tremendous power in setting cultural guidelines and in shaping political discourse. According to the national media watch group FAIR (Fairness and Accuracy In Reporting), it is essential that news media are challenged to be fair and accurate. According to FAIR, the first step in challenging biased news coverage is documenting bias. FAIR provides a blueprint of questions that the public should ask themselves when they come across newspaper, magazine, television and radio news:

  • Who are the sources?
  • From whose point of view is the news reported?
  • Are there double standards?
  • Do stereotypes skew coverage?
  • What are the unchallenged assumptions?
  • Is the language loaded?
  • Is there a lack of context?
  • Do the headlines and stories match?
  • Are stories on important issues featured prominently?

I implore all Ladies Again readers to document bias in the media by sharing a photo of the news article on Tumblr and Twitter using the hashtag #tagthebias. We’re sharing a few examples below:

In this Post article, men's blog is mentioned in quotations.
In this Post article, men’s blogs are referenced in quotations.
The Post draws attention to Indian feminist protests.
The Post draws attention to Indian feminist protests.
Two (!) feminist news updates from The Washington Post
Two (!) feminist news updates from The Washington Post

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