Nonnegotiables for Feminine Women

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Authors Suzanne Venker and Phyllis Schlafly argue a good case for political conservatism in “The Flipside of Feminism: What Conservative Women Know―and Men Can’t Say,” a book that explores the ways that feminism has negatively affected American politics, culture and society. According to the authors, feminism, at its core, is about power for the liberal left. Liberal power elites in the U.S. do not want equality because they want a matriarchy instead. “Flipside” authors argue that powerful feminists are using their power in media, politics, education and entertainment to convince others that women are being oppressed, marriage and motherhood are outdated and unnecessary and that gender roles are irrelevant.

Flipside Book
Flipside Book

The book explores topics typically undermined or wholly ignored by feminists, such as the physical and emotional consequences of casual sex, the impacts of divorce on children, the stress of balancing a family and a high-power career and the relationship between age and fertility. The authors argue that women need to be more conservative in their approach to family life and career selection.

They argue that women need to adopt three critical nonnegotiables to their life planning strategy (excerpted from the book):

  1. Casual sex is a dead-end street, and cohabitation does not lead to a successful marriage.
  2. Marriage is the ultimate goal, and divorce should not be assumed to be an option.
  3. Children need, deserve, and want to be raised by their own parents, who are married to each other.

Best Takeaways

  • “Feminists have been successful in getting the majority of Americans to believe that millions of women in the 1950s all realized simultaneously that they were ‘entitled’ to a life outside the home and then expressed this desire only to encounter discrimination at every turn. What was really happening was that technological advances were producing so many labor-saving devices, such as dishwashers and dryers, that women didn’t have to spend as much time on household chores…Women began entering the workforce―and they did so without feminism.” (35)
  • “The truth is that feminism has been the single worst thing that has happened to American women. It did not liberate women at all―it confused them…Their female nature tells them sex requires love; marriage is important; children are a blessing; and men are necessary. The culture, meanwhile, tells them to sleep around and postpone family life because that will cost them their identity. (55)
  • “One reason women are confused about sex is that they’re constantly barraged with politically correct images of men and women hooking up indiscriminately, under the promise that such behavior is empowering to women. They never see the fallout of such behavior.” (63)
  • “Married couples no longer think of themselves as one unit but as separate entities sharing space, which leads to an obscuring of gender roles and inevitable conflict as each spouse focuses solely on his or her own needs rather than the needs of the marriage.” (75)
  • “Any story that portrays women as victims, or portrays women in search of their identity in the absences of a husband and children, is a shoo-in for mainstream media publicity.” (83)
  • “The inconvenient truth is that many careers do not offer women the flexibility they want. If you plan to be a doctor, lawyer, or business executive, your family life will suffer―period. The men and women who pursued these foals have paid a big price for their achievement in the long hours they must commit to their careers.” (116)
    “Disregarding a man’s work ethic and work prospects means women may be forced to remain in the workforce to keep the family afloat―and many will come to regret this.” (117)
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This couple is making a mistake if they move in before marriage.

Downsides

The book gave good advice for single women looking for a husband, but it did not include suggestions on how to stop elite feminists from shaping politics and the news media. Where should conservative women go to for unbiased news information? Which political leaders are helping traditional- and family-oriented women?

Overall Opinion

The book is a good read for readers who are new to the traditional women/anti-feminist book world. The book is highly recommended.

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Flexible Jobs for Women

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We all know that, despite HAM (‘Hating Anti-Male’) calls for more equality in the workplace, studies show that most women do not want to be working at all. In fact, one Pew study found that women do not even want to be the boss. The reason for this is that many smart Red Pill Women understand that making money does not come before loving their spouses and families. There’s ample examples in books and articles of women who gave up their youth, energy and fertility for their jobs.

Photo by Geoffery Kehrig via Flickr
Photo by Geoffery Kehrig via Flickr

After all, who really wants to end up becoming power woman like Erin Callan, the former chief financial officer of the doomed Lehman Brothers, who realized only after the crash and burn of her career that she did not have a life outside of work? Or to realize, at 47 years of age, as she did, that she missed out on her opportunity to have children? Who wants to be Kate Bolick, the writer for The Atlantic who realized at 39 that she might have missed her opportunity to have a family, too?

Here’s the kicker to feminism: You can try to compete with men in the workplace and decide to work overtime to get ahead, but after years of working hard, only men will still have the option to have children (usually with younger, more fertile women) once they get older. As women, we have to prioritize our youth and fertility if we want to have children.

This means that we cannot allow ourselves to lose years of our youth in dead-in relationships (i.e., hookups, one-night stands or any kind of fornicating with bums) or in dead-in, exhausting jobs. Intense rat-race corporate jobs must be off limits because they take so much time away our abilities to date or stay at home with our children. In the book, “The Flipside of Feminism,” authors Suzanne Venker and Phyllis Schlafly argued that a woman’s family life will suffer if she chooses a high-achieving career that involves long hours. She encourages women to reconsider their plans to become doctors, lawyers or business executives.

As part-time and telecommuting work become more common, there are ways for women to find work outside of the office (or away from the Starbucks register). We’ve compiled a list of a few flexible jobs:

  • Web developer/designer
  • Finance manager
  • Software developer
  • Insurance agent
  • Dietitian
  • Real-estate agent
  • Graphic designer
  • Property, real-estate and community-association manager
  • Writer
  • Newspaper reporter
  • Financial analyst
  • Film/Video editor
  • Personal assistant
  • Dog walker

Did we miss any flexible jobs? Share jobs in the comments below.

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