Are You Living in the City of Love?

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I just moved to a city that has the highest levels of single men to single women in the country, and I am loving every minute of it. There are so many single, high-paid men here that one matchmaking service, called the Dating Ring, even launched a crowdfunded campaign to send New York’s single women to meet all of my new city’s “eligible bachelors.” Ah yes, the dating scene is wonderful here.

Friends, I now live in San Francisco. I moved to California a few months ago to get away from the brutal cold winters and fast-paced life of the East Coast. I also knew that I wanted to make finding a husband a bigger priority this year, so I decided to move to a city where the odds of finding a suitable mate are much higher. I first decided to pack up and relocate to the West after reading Richard Florida’s book “Who’s Your City,” which explores the impact that a person’s place of residency can exert over the jobs and careers they have access to, the people they meet and their “mating markets” and their ability to lead happy and fulfilled lives. In the book, Florida ranks Canadian and U.S. cities by life-stage, rating the best places for singles, young families and empty-nesters.

Singles graph
Singles graph

In the past few weeks since I have moved here, I have received hundreds of online dating messages from guys and I have gone on at least 15 dates with men in the San Francisco area looking to settle down. The majority of these men work in the technology industry in some way, with most of the guys being software engineers. I could be imagining things, but there seems to be more men at bars and restaurants in the city. I’ve noticed that men are much friendlier here on the streets, at the pier, in cafes and in libraries. People actually smile here! The high number of men here has created a sort of dilemma for me: I’d love to meet more women at social events around the city because I want to have more female friends here, but all I keep meeting are more men.

Pew Research on suitable cities for singles.
Pew Research on suitable cities for singles.

I am having a great time here in the Bay Area, but a single North American woman needn’t move all the way here to find a spouse. The Pew Research Center recently published a list of the best and worst cities for women looking to marry. At the top of their list? Silicon Valley. Here’s more:

“For women seeking a male partner with a job, our analysis found that San Jose, Calif., tops the list among large metro areas, with 114 single employed men for every 100 single women. Among all single young adults, there were 141 men for every 100 women in this area. Over half (57%) of young adults ages 25 to 34 in the metro area, which includes Sunnyvale and Santa Clara, were single in 2012.”

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