Why You Need to Get a Plant Today

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How do you show love and care to others on a regular basis? In what ways do you like to show your spouse that you care about them? How do you care for your family and friends? And if you have them, how do you show love to your children?

One of the hallmarks of being a lady is being empathetic to the needs of others. Feminine women know how to show others that they care about them, and that they are understanding and attune to the needs of others. The difference between feminine women and masculine women is in the effort made to think about how to care and support people other than themselves. They know how to listen carefully to loved ones to find ways that they can support them better. Perhaps that includes bringing soup to a friend feeling sick, baking muffins for a neighbor, or offering to drive a relative to a job interview. It might even include occasionally sending a friend a card or hand-written note to show them that you care. Feminine women are masters at recognizing ways to help others around them.

As I continue on my journey to to improve my sense of femininity, I am always looking for ways to improve myself every day. It sounds crazy, but one of the best ways to improve compassion for others is to start small and get a houseplant. I know, you’re probably thinking, how is a nonverbal, static houseplant going to help me improve my compassion for others? Plants are great way to train yourself to think about other entities on a regular basis for several reasons. First, having a plant improves your sensitivity to the needs of others. The only way to keep the plant thriving and healthy is to pay careful attention to its needs. Does your plant need new soil? Is the plant dry and limp? Does it need sunlight? As a plant owner, you will need to think carefully about what the plant needs to stay alive. Depending on the plant, some houseplants require more care than others―think orchids, not peace lilies―so you can actually train yourself to be more caring by purchasing very delicate plants.

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Second, plants require regular and consistent care, and having one in your home reminds you that the world does not revolve around you all the time. Other people have needs too, and having a plant teaches you to think about things other than yourself and your needs. Much in the same way that plant owners must remind themselves to water and re-pot their plants, feminine women also might remind themselves to call a distance relative to check up on them, or to make plans to visit a long-distance friend.

If you are interested in learning how to improve your sense of femininity, start small by getting one plant, and build up to buying 10-12 plants for your home. Your home will look better as a result of your efforts. If you have enough space in your home, consider upping the ante and starting a small garden. At one point a few years ago, I had a small vegetable garden on my balcony that brought me so much joy! I could not wait to get home from work to check on my tomatoes and zucchinis. At the same time that I had my balcony garden, I spent a lot of time caring for my partner and friends, and I attribute some of that caring to my garden. If there was a barometer for care and kindness to others, my levels were off the chart that summer thanks to my garden!

How do you show love and care through plants? Take a photo of your plant and share it using the hashtag #ladiesagain.

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Go Ahead. Mail That Thank You Card

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Communication today, it seems, is mostly digital. You fire off emails to your supervisor, you send text messages to your siblings and friends and you peruse blogs and social media platforms after work hours. While it is great that the world’s digital transformation is making it easier to get work done, we are losing a bit of our sense of humanity and social connectedness in the process. Nothing is as gracious or thoughtful as the written word and emails and text messages are far more disposable, temporary and impersonal.

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If you had to guess, when would you say was the last time that you sent a friend or a relative a letter or a thank you card? I send out Christmas cards to my family members annually, but that is the only mass mailing I send out every year. I may send my mother a “Thinking of You” card every now and then, but I am not consistent with my mailings to her. And I cannot remember the last time I sent a handwritten note to anyone.

While no computer screen can make up for all of the visceral components of personal, face-to-face interactions, there are ways to show relatives and friends that you care about them. You can send personalized letters, cards and thank-you notes. Letters mean such a great deal to the people who receive them, which is why it is important to remind your love ones that you care about them. I spent a great deal of time this summer memorizing helpful pointers from Marjabelle Young Stewart’s etiquette book “Commonsense Etiquette,” a book that explores ways to behave with courtesy and style. Is there anything more ladylike than basic etiquette? After reading the text, I followed Stewart’s advice and sought out personal stationery. She recommends that readers keep on hand the following materials:

Formal Writing Paper
This paper is used to respond to formal invitations and write condolence letters. This paper should be plain white or cream of fine heavy stock. Remember that formal paper has a fold on the left side, giving it a fold that measures about 5.5 by 7.75 inches.

Everyday Writing Paper
Everyday writing paper is paper used for writing letters to friends, thank-you notes, letters of congratulation and condolence (use gray writing paper for condolence letters). These letters can be monogrammed or personalized with the letter-writer’s name and address.

Correspondence Cards
Correspondence cards measure 3.5 X 5.75 inches and are used for quick short notes.

Blank Decorated Cards
These are decorated store-bought cards that allow you to write your own greetings. Do not use decorated cards with preprinted messages―you want to send a personalized, classy and thoughtful message to your contacts. Sorry Hallmark!

You should send personalized notes and letters to your contacts throughout the year. Additionally, Stewart argues that there are situations in which it is rude not to write a thank you note, including:

  • Letter of acceptance or regret to a formal invitation
  • Thank you for a wedding present
  • Thank you for spending the night in someone’s home
  • Thank you note to someone who has done you a special favor
  • Note of congratulations to an important event, accomplishment or honor in a friend’s life
  • Thank you for presents not opened in the giver’s presence
  • Letter of condolence to a friend on the death of an immediate family member

Sample Notes

Not sure of what to say in your note? Here are a two sample notes:

Dear Eunice,
Thank you for the lovely evening spent at your dinner party on Monday. The night could not have been organized better, from the lively conversation to the delicious food you prepared. We’re still talking about the luscious red devil cake. Thank you so much for inviting us.

Fondly,
Tonya


 

Stephanie,

I just learned of the death of your mother. I’ve heard you speak of her warmly and I know how much she meant to you and your brothers and sisters. I just wanted you to know that you have my deepest sympathy. If there is anything at all that I can do for you at, please call me and I’ll come right over.

Love,
Blade

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